SEND Help Hub

 

Navigating SEND systems can feel overwhelming, confusing, and isolating —
especially when you are already supporting a child who is struggling.

 

This Help Hub has been created to offer clear, calm guidance and practical
information without judgement or pressure.

You do not need to read everything at once.

 

Take what is helpful and leave the rest.

Not Sure Where to Start?

Many families arrive here feeling unsure what the “right” next step is.

There often isn’t one single answer  and that’s okay.

  • If school is becoming a daily battle, start with understanding EBSA and emotional safety.
  • If support feels insufficient, learning about EHCPs can help clarify options
  • If everything feels too much, focus first on regulation and wellbeing
  • If you’re stuck between professionals, understanding your rights can help

Understanding EHCPs

An Education, Health and Care Plan (EHCP) is a legal document that sets out
a child or young person’s needs and the support required to meet them.

 

An EHCP is not about labels or blame. It is about ensuring appropriate,
lawful support is in place.

 

  • You do not need a diagnosis to request an EHCP assessment.
  • Schools can request an assessment, but parents can too.
  • An EHCP should be needs-led, not provision-led.
  • Support must be specific and quantified.

EBSA & School-Based Anxiety.

 

Emotionally Based School Avoidance (EBSA) is not defiance or poor parenting.
It is a response to distress, overwhelm, or unmet need.

 

  • Attendance difficulties are often a sign of something deeper.
  • Forcing attendance can increase anxiety and burnout.
  • Safety and trust must come before learning.
  • Flexible, gradual approaches are often more effective.

EOTIS & Alternative Provision:

 

For some children, education otherwise than at school (EOTIS) may be necessary
to protect wellbeing and enable engagement.

 

  • EOTIS is a legal option where school is not suitable
  • Provision should be personalised and flexible.
  • Wellbeing and regulation are central, not optional.
  • Learning can look different and still be valid.

Regulation, Burnout & Wellbeing:

Many neurodivergent children experience chronic stress from environments
that do not meet their needs.:

 

  • Burnout can look like withdrawal, anger, or shutdown
  • Rest and safety are not “giving up”
  • Progress often comes after pressure is reduced
  • Small steps matter

Common Questions

Do I need a diagnosis to get support?

No. Support should be needs-led, not diagnosis-led.

 

What if school says they can’t do anything?

This often means support needs reviewing, not that nothing can be done.

 

What if I’m worried I’m doing the wrong thing?

Most parents asking that question are doing the best they can in difficult circumstances.

Need Support?

If you would like help understanding your situation or exploring next steps, support is available.

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